It has come to my notice that playing someone has become a trend…something to brag about and beat your chest over. Now I hope I have players in the house (Odeshii..baba for the boys…baba for the ladies..king kunta..raskimono). I need one player to sincerely answer me – What do you guys gain in the end? Free sex? Courage? One more girl off the list? A long list of exes for your future spouse? A trophy..or is it an award? What’s wrong with staying with one person or being with none? It’s 2018 guys… Wake up! Life is leaving you behind.
Now for those of you that know you’re being played, or have been played, some people may advice you to play the player. Yeah… while that may be right, you see…some of us are really not just created to play people. You might be trying to get the person back and the person will turn the tables on you. You end up getting fooled…twice. I feel no one should play with anyone’s emotions..if you find out that you’ve been played, or are being played, just walk away immediately or maybe first of all, dump a glass of drink on him, get him mad…play some small shenanigans…and then walk away 😛
These players…they ain’t nothing but a bit of fragile dust…Yes…I said fragile dust..I know. They just do these things to appease their inferiorities. Do them strong thing now and they will fall in love with you and start begging you to forgive their past.
Forgiveness is divine…and it ain’t easy to be divine.
I’m not saying that you should now make it your mission to change them. If you happen to fall in love with one, don’t think that you can change him if you are nice and submissive. Girl…all he’d see is another toy he can easily manipulate. Yes, feel free to love, but don’t be stupid. Like Davido’s Fia says
“I love you no be say if you say make I put one hand for fire
I go put hand for fire”
Be a strong woman…be a strong black woman. You can’t control your feelings..yes..but you definitely can control your actions and you get to choose whether or not you want to control them. It’s going to be hard but you are tougher and you decide not to let anyone play you in the name of “love”.
Let me give you a secret loves… set standards and principles for yourself. Know what you want and be patient for it. The truth is that these players most times, never fall into these standards. We are the ones that begin to compromise because they’ve enticed us with their sweet talk.
I find it very hard to trust sweet talkers.